You know what bothers me?
People who complain about the things that they have wanted (and now have) or have created for themselves.
The thing about the internet is that everyone feels like their thoughts and opinions are not only worth sharing, but absolutely correct. (And yes, I am acutely aware of the searing irony in my blogging about this.) I have read articles where a hugely successful author complains of a public who expects another book from them. Or an actor giving interviews where they bemoan the loss of their privacy. Or… and I just read this one… mothers complaining about how everything is so hard and nobody understands.
Now, I’m not talking about coming in at the end of a long day & flopping down next to your significant other & sighing “good lord, that was a rough one!” – or any similar situation. That’s not complaining, that’s just venting. Everyone has bad days. No, I’m talking about the self-indulgent whining ramblings of selfish, immature people who have been mightily blessed but instead want to sniff about the fact that it wasn’t quite what they expected.
If you are capable of walking upright, have a roof over your head, food to put on the table, and the capacity to feed yourself that food, there are already MILLIONS of people who envy you what you have. If you add a job (ANY job, much less one that you enjoy), house, family, friends, transportation… the number gets even higher. So really, there’s so much to be thankful for – and far better to concentrate on that rather than all the bs negativity. Especially if the situation you are in is one that you not only created for yourself, but sought out!
To borrow the words from a wiser soul than me: “Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” ~Lao Tzu
If you wanted something… and now you have it… Don’t complain. Don’t whine. Don’t gripe about how it’s hard & a lot of work & not what you expected.
Because you wanted it. And you have it. And the very thing that you’re complaining about may, in fact, be the dearest longing of another’s heart – a longing that they cannot fulfill.
Words matter. Always choose them carefully.